So many people have resorted to online dating as a way to meet new people with the hopes that it could grow into a long term relationship. Some people just don’t have time to go out and meet people or maybe they are shy. There’s so many online dating websites and apps nowadays like Tinder, Match.com, OkCupid, etc. However, the way I met my fiancé was through AOL. Yes, you read that right… AOL.
The Beginning Of Our Story
Back in the late 90s/early 2000s, many teenagers (and pre-teens) were on AOL. I’m sure you remember the “you’ve got mail” sound and the famous dial up noise. Well, I was one of those pre-teens and I liked going on chatrooms and talking to people online. I’d enter a chatroom and sometimes I’d recognize people I’ve gotten to know and other times it was a bunch of brand new people. One of the first things people would do when entering a chatroom was to ask “a/s/l” or age, sex, location. In one of the chatrooms I was in one day, someone replied with “13/m/Chicago” (I was 11). We IMed (instant messaged each other), swapped photos, and got to know one another.
I would stay up late at night talking to this boy in Chicago getting to know him and just talking about random things. Honestly, I don’t remember too much about what we talked about back then. I eventually called him my “online boyfriend”. At this point, I had no intentions of meeting him because I was only 11 and he lived in Chicago but it was so nice to have someone to talk to, even if it was just online.
Our Adult Years
Fast forward a few years and we still managed to connect every once in a while. Then Facebook came along and we added each other and kept in contact that way for many years. There would be times when we would be talking for months at a time and then times where we went a year or two without ever talking. However, it was nice to have that constant friend over the years. Honestly, I still had no intention of ever meeting him.
Then in August of 2015, my mom was hospitalized and he contacted me to offer support. She eventually passed away and him being there for me during this time meant so much to me. We continued talking the rest of the year and by early 2016, our conversations seemed so much deeper than they ever had before. We started Skyping and talking “face to face” and learning more about each other as adults. It finally made sense that we should meet and we had it all planned out, however at the last minute I got scared and cancelled. His friendship was something that I could always count on and I was scared that meeting in person would ruin that friendship.
The Final Chapter
We didn’t talk for a little while after that, but then we reconnected again and I was ready to meet in person and so was he. He flew out to California from Chicago in April 2016. Once we saw each other in person, it felt so natural. It felt so nice to have my best friend of all these years in front of me.
He stayed for two or three nights then flew back to Chicago. However, we missed each other so much that he flew back the next day. He ended up staying with me for about a month or so. We flew to Chicago together and I met his mom, then I flew back to California by myself. We both knew that we wanted to be together, so I flew back to Chicago and drove with him to California so he could live with me. In July, he proposed and it was the best day of my life.
It Could Work For You!
Now, I’m not saying that you should meet someone in person only after talking to them for over 15 years (lol), but if you have a connection with someone… you should definitely meet up with them (and perhaps sooner rather than later). You never know… that person could be the person you’ve been searching for your whole life.
Have you ever met someone you met from a dating website? If so, how did it work out for you? If not, would you ever?