To the girl who thought she’d end up alone: I was you. When I was younger, I had my whole life planned out. I’d graduate college by the time I’m 24, get married at 25, and have my first child at 27. Then when 25 came and I was still single, I thought maybe it’d be pushed back a year or so. Then came 26 and 27 and I was still single. At that point, I had accepted that I’d end up alone… and I was okay with that.
Not everyone wants to get married and that’s okay. However, I always longed for that partner and wanted to get married. I was that little girl who dreamed of a big wedding. So when I finally accepted the fact that I would be single, I focused my energy on other things and most importantly in myself. So, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish for myself and set out to do those things. I got a degree in Early Childhood Development. I started many small businesses (none really took off though). While doing all that, I worked full time as an office manager at daycare. During this time, I was truly happy.
I think so many people long for that partner but I came to realize that there are so many people around you that you are never truly alone. Being an only child, I relied on my friends a lot and I’m grateful for the people who have stuck it out with me through all my ups and downs. I’ve had quite a few downs these last few years and only a few have managed to be by my side through it all.
So, even if you don’t have that partner, you aren’t really alone. You have so many people around you. Try to focus your energy into yourself and accomplishing things you always wanted to do. You have the support of your friends, family, and most importantly… you. You get to do what you want to do and accomplish everything you want.